Relationships, even the best of them, require care and attention. If you are in a relationship and like most people, you have had to work on things. It’s like keeping your body healthy. You can’t ignore it and expect it to be in top form. But, if you’ve been in triage mode for a long [read more]
It’s Really Over: 7 Steps Towards Acceptance
We don’t have to accept everything that happens to us. Sometimes we need to resist, make change, or fight for what we believe. But when it comes to the end of a relationship—acceptance is really the only good option. Anything else is torture, and ultimately prevents life from moving on. I’ve seen clients struggle with [read more]
Honor Your Courage
When we put ourselves, body and soul, into a relationship it is an investment in life, the future, our own happiness. When what seemed to be “the relationship” does not work out as we hoped, it takes guts to get out of it, and it takes guts to get out there and try again. ♥ [read more]
Permission to Feel and a Chance to Heal: 5 Tips for Healing After a Breakup
Do you know… Someone like Norman? Within two weeks of his live-in girlfriend’s leaving him, he was making a profile on eHarmony. He said he wanted to “move on” and prove to himself (and his ex) that he’d be okay. He was not okay. At least not yet. Someone like Janelle? When her relationship ended [read more]
Knit Through It: Finding the Flow to Cope with a Break-up
The break-up of a relationship takes a toll on you. Whether you are the breaker or the breakee, your life is suddenly turned upside down. You may be feeling lonely, anxious, even completely depressed. Fears surface, and it is sometimes difficult to soothe yourself. You try the Haagen Dazs cure, but that only works for [read more]
50 Ways to Leave Your Lover—Some Better than Others
You are probably familiar with the iconic song by Paul Simon, 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover. As great as that song is…slipping out the back, Jack, is not one of the better ways to end a relationship. When the blinding light of knowledge hit Charlessa one morning, she knew it was time to end [read more]
To Ex or not to Ex? Is it a Good Idea to Try Again?
♥ Veronica had recently split from her husband when a blast from the past knocked her for a loop. A guy she’d once been head over heels in love with reappeared in her life via Facebook…and he wanted to connect. Friendly-like. Last time, Vincent had left her rather suddenly and unkindly, despite what Veronica thought [read more]
Debunking the Myth of the “Failed Relationship”
When you are reading a great book, the kind you rush home after work to pick up, and you finally turn the last page, do you say, “What a failure that book was,” simply because it ended? You may feel a lot of things, but surely you don’t consider the experience a failure? The same [read more]