I have moving on-the-brain this week (since I’m moving into a new house myself) so wanted to write about the practical issues around moving in with your partner. For insights about how to arrive at this important decision (or not), and an overview of some of the issues involved, you can revisit some of my [read more]
Inspired Action for Deepening Your Relationship
True love was something Desmond and Sevilla never questioned. They had it. They had felt grateful and blessed for seven years since the day they met at a bicycle auction in upstate New York. They’d married at the top of a ski mountain the following winter where their wedding party skied or snowboarded down to [read more]
Married at First Sight—What’s the Takeaway?
People like you and me, who live in the Western world where arranged marriages faded into nonexistence long ago, often have a bit of a fascination with the concept. Given all the time, stress, energy, and expense we go through to meet someone, date, break up, start over, all in an effort to find “the [read more]
Reaching Accord: How the Power Struggle Stage Can Create Relationship Growth
A few weeks ago, I got a call from Eric. He needed coaching, he said, because his perfect relationship was suddenly not-so-perfect, and he did not have a clue what was going on. He was grieving for what he saw as the loss of his ideal relationship. He told me: “Gillian and I fell passionately [read more]
Making the Move: Considering Cohabitation (Part 2)
So you have decided to do it: live together. That’s what my client Karen and her boyfriend, Jared, decided too. Last week I wrote about things to think about when making the decision. This week we’ll look at a few things to think about—both big and small—when you are planning the big move. Practical considerations: [read more]
Wouldn’t it Be Nice to Live Together? Considering Cohabitation (Part 1)
People in love often, though not always, dream about moving in together at some point. Now that there’s no more social stigma about cohabiting, it’s much easier to go for it. Still, it’s not a simple decision to make. When my client Karen had been dating Jared for almost a year, she called me for [read more]
Places to Propose: Thinking Outside the Box
There are proposals… and there are proposals. Some show little effort and less thought (a Facebook status proposal comes to mind) and others are so flashy as to be more about the proposer than the proposee (like the ones at the ballpark on the Jumbo Tron™). Whereas there is no right or wrong way to [read more]