Flirting is as much a way of being as it is a way of doing. Three parts mindset; one part action. What’s lessons can we learn from a grade-A flirt? He or she is open and receptive, generous and giving, and a little vulnerable. And remember, it takes confidence to be vulnerable…. Flirting is all [read more]
First Impressions
Have you ever read the first page of a book in a bookstore (if you still buy books that way, that is!) and decided not to buy it? It might have been a really great book, but you didn’t want to take the chance and spend the time to read 50 pages. It takes at [read more]
Why are you dating?
Let me tell you about a rather ridiculous first experience on Match.com: A client of mine, Kate, had just signed up for online dating and did not know the first thing about the process. (She made one big mistake: she didn’t ask me!) So when on the first day someone sent her a message to [read more]
Is there more to compatibility than a Princeton degree?
Back in 2013 Susan Patton doled out advice to young Princeton women to find a husband before they graduate or be doomed. In case anyone is still thinking this way, I want to say a few things about compatibility and the criteria for finding a partner. As I’ve emphasized before, to figure out what makes [read more]
The Dreaded “Friend Zone” – How to Get out and Stay Out
A woman sits at a restaurant with a group of friends, next to the man of her dreams, or at least she thinks so. The problem is, they are “just friends.” As she sits there, smiling, laughing at his jokes, she thinks, “He’s so great. Why can’t he see me as more than just a [read more]
Age… Does it Matter?
Of course age doesn’t matter. Age discrimination is an appalling fact of life in all walks of life, and many young people feel marginalized as much as their seniors. Older people are judged as “expired,” “invalid,” “out of touch,” and the young as “naïve,” “ignorant” and “clueless.” But equality issues aside—what about age and dating? [read more]
The Readiness Factor—Is it Time to Start Dating Again?
No matter where you are on the dating continuum, it’s always a good idea to step back and take stock of your readiness. So, if you are already in the dating pool, or if you are thinking about dipping your toe back in, or if you are worried that you may never be ready to [read more]
Kiss and Tell? Guidelines for If and When to Share a Past Relationship in a New One
My client Angie has been dating John for a few weeks. She is feeling happy at how things are going but she called me recently to ask for some advice. She asked, “Should I talk about past relationships?” I said definitively, “Yes.” But with some caveats. Basically, honesty is always the best policy when you [read more]