Not everyone is afraid of a fight, but there are not many who would put “fighting” on the top of their list of fun things. Some people thrive on drama and their relationships are peppered by moments of calm among the arguments. Others fear conflict and try their hardest to avoid arguments altogether. Then there’s [read more]
Expert Dating and Relationship Advice from Coach Betty Russell, BCC
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Dating Advice: How to Avoid the Trap of the Emotionally Unavailable
Have you ever been involved with someone who didn’t seem to be there? A client of mine became involved with a man she could not seem to pin down. He was like a mirage – she could see him, even hear him, but when she would reach out to touch him and grab hold of [read more]
Three Little Words – I Love You
What are the most important words you will ever utter? Some people may think I’m talking about the words: “pass the wine,” but no. I mean the words “I love you.” The words “I love you” are indeed small, but have the potential to change our lives by plunging us into endorphin-soaked happiness, or creating [read more]
Taking a Dating Break: Why?
Is this you? You believe that you have a good sense of who you are, you know what you want and need in a relationship, you even have a dating strategy, but you are taking a break from dating, or considering it. Why? As with most life decisions, examining motives is always a good idea. [read more]
Honestly? Telling Lies Hurts (Everybody)
People lie constantly. Especially if you include in your tally the most common lie of all: “I’m fine.” As much of a social lubricant as this lie is, it represents an essential fact. People don’t want to reveal… too much. We learn to lie in childhood. Saying “sorry” when we are not, saying what others [read more]
5 Signs You are Dating a Rebounder
My client Jade met someone perfect online. She could not believe her luck. Keith seemed custom designed to fit her dating needs and wants. They exchanged a few emails, chatted on the phone, and since things continued to look oh-so-hopeful, they met face to face for a coffee date. Bingo! Chemistry? Check. Comfort and mutual [read more]
Are You Dating a Selfish Person?
Feeling a little invisible in your relationship? Wondering why your date’s version of give and take has a lot more take than give (which leaves you making up the difference)? Maybe you need to assess how you show up in your relationship, and whether you are looking out for yourself enough. On the other hand, [read more]
What a Coffee Order Reveals – Only Your Barista Knows for Sure
I always wonder about those people at Starbucks who stand at the counter and hold forth for two or three minutes about their special order. “I want a venti iced decaf latte, half skim and half soy, filled 62% of the way, with no more than one inch of whipped cream. Oh, and make that [read more]