Is this you? You believe that you have a good sense of who you are, you know what you want and need in a relationship, you even have a dating strategy, but you are taking a break from dating, or considering it. Why? As with most life decisions, examining motives is always a good idea. [read more]
Honestly? Telling Lies Hurts (Everybody)
People lie constantly. Especially if you include in your tally the most common lie of all: “I’m fine.” As much of a social lubricant as this lie is, it represents an essential fact. People don’t want to reveal… too much. We learn to lie in childhood. Saying “sorry” when we are not, saying what others [read more]
Are You Dating a Selfish Person?
Feeling a little invisible in your relationship? Wondering why your date’s version of give and take has a lot more take than give (which leaves you making up the difference)? Maybe you need to assess how you show up in your relationship, and whether you are looking out for yourself enough. On the other hand, [read more]
Dating a braggart?
Sometimes it takes a while to recognize the clues found in the actions and words of a braggart. Are you dating one? Or have you? You know…that interesting person you met and thought was going to be great? But despite having some qualities you look for in a partner, like independence, good looks, manners, humor… [read more]
Loss of Self: Love Doesn’t Mean You Have to Disappear
My client, Alexandrea, has a story that speaks to a not uncommon relationship problem. Read it, and see if it rings any bells for you. Alexandrea knows she has a lot of love to give. She longs for a relationship that fulfills her and to which she can give her all. In her pursuit of [read more]
Can long distance relationships last?
Long-distance relationships have been around for a long time. At one time in history separation by ten miles would constitute a long-distance relationship and contact would be done via handwritten letters. Much of the courtship between poets Elizabeth Barrett Browning and Robert Browning was conducted via love letters, which are wonderful to read! They fell [read more]
8 Steps to Making the First Contact
We make contact with new people all the time – through friends, at work, at the gym – just about everywhere. But when it comes to dating, singles can find making the first contact very challenging. Here’s a scenario: You’re all dressed up, feeling confident and arriving at a social event. Your attention is caught [read more]
Toxic Relationships – What Are They and What Can Be Done?
David had been with Suzanne for so long that he forgot what it felt like to just feel good, or even okay, on a daily basis. He was in a toxic relationship but did not realize it. It was affecting his mental and emotional well-being. But he loved Suzanne – how could she be toxic? [read more]