My client, Alexandrea, has a story that speaks to a not uncommon relationship problem. Read it, and see if it rings any bells for you. Alexandrea knows she has a lot of love to give. She longs for a relationship that fulfills her and to which she can give her all. In her pursuit of [read more]
Signs You’ve Found The One
There are so many chapters in the book of love. Sure, it’s a cliché, but the Monotones were onto something with that iconic 1958 pop song. The chapters may not be exactly as outlined in their lyrics, but it’s essentially true that you can’t really skip to the end. It’s a process. So if you [read more]
Is there more to compatibility than a Princeton degree?
Back in 2013 Susan Patton doled out advice to young Princeton women to find a husband before they graduate or be doomed. In case anyone is still thinking this way, I want to say a few things about compatibility and the criteria for finding a partner. As I’ve emphasized before, to figure out what makes [read more]
The ABCs of Your Dating Code
Why do you need to know your dating code? A code is an internal radar system that helps you navigate the dating waters so you can find a meaningful relationship. You need to know what to look for, and what to look out for. Your code, quite simply, helps you get what you want and [read more]
6 Steps to Escape Relationship Déjà vu
Is there something eerily familiar about your current relationship? Do you have that funny feeling “I’ve been here before….” “Déjà vu all over again,” as the saying goes. If you are headed down a familiar road, trapped in the well-worn ruts created by your last (several) relationships, what makes you think that this time the [read more]
How do I know that I’m being lied to?
Lying is believing or knowing one thing while intending to communicate another. As painful as it is to be lied to, a certain amount of empathy is important when dealing with liars who typically are acting out of fear or low self-esteem. Often, fear and low self-image are also responsible for the very actions about [read more]
Asking for What You Need – Why You Should and Why It’s Hard
We are born fully programmed to ask for, and receive, what we need. A baby just minutes old will turn its head expectantly, assuming its biological need for sustenance will be met promptly. If it isn’t, the baby cries, and mama puts the little wiggleworm to her breast. Feedback loop complete. Easy, right? Well, yes, [read more]
The Value of Interdependent Relationships
Dependence. Independence. Co-dependence Interdependence. These are not buzz words – they are terms that clearly delineate ways of interacting with others. Dependence – A newborn baby is dependent. All the power lies with its parents. Dependence is a vulnerable, trusting state. As adults, we can be, at times, dependent on others, but it is never [read more]