Betty Answers Dating Questions

QUESTION: I feel that the person I am dating is gaslighting me. How can I know?

Dear Betty, I feel that the person I am dating is gaslighting me.  How can I know? Dating can be a thrilling experience, full of joy, excitement and the possibility of finding someone special. It’s a chance to discover that person you can share a connection with and build a meaningful relationship with. However, it can also be difficult, tricky, and extremely difficult to detect when something is wrong in a relationship. Gaslighting in dating can be hard to recognize and is a form … [Read More...] about QUESTION: I feel that the person I am dating is gaslighting me. How can I know?

Question: Can you help me understand why I have a hard time asking for what I need in a relationship?

Dear Betty, Can you help me understand why I have a hard time asking for what I need in a relationship? Yes, I can help you.  This a very important question because all relationships end due to unmet needs or death.  Whether the needs are known or unknown, spoken or unspoken they are critical to having a mutually satisfying relationship.  Many times, we are unaware of a need until it becomes an issue.  That is your cue to discover what you need in your relationships and to speak up.  … [Read More...] about Question: Can you help me understand why I have a hard time asking for what I need in a relationship?

Question: Can you help me to understand why I take breadcrumbs in my relationships?

Question:  Dear Betty, Can you help me to understand why I take breadcrumbs in my relationships? Whether it’s love, dating, friendship, or career, it seems like I’m always settling for crumbs instead of the whole loaf. It’s a pattern I can’t seem to break. Yes, I can help you to understand some possible reasons why you take breadcrumbs and give you steps to break this pattern. First, I would like to say that it is wonderful that you have the awareness of this pattern and that it … [Read More...] about Question: Can you help me to understand why I take breadcrumbs in my relationships?

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Online Dating Advice

How to Begin Feeling Safe Enough to Express Our Truth

“Nothing in this world is harder than speaking the truth, nothing easier than flattery,” Fyodor Dostoyevsky, a Russian novelist, once said. And so, this is how millions of people feel and behave every single day. It’s hard to speak our truth or to reveal our true feelings to someone, especially when we have an unnerving fear that we may upset them. But by learning tools which can assist us in overcoming this fear and using our powerful voice in such a way that we are truly heard; we will be … [read more]

Innovative and Fun Ways to Date During COVID-19

Without a doubt, the COVID-19 pandemic has taken over the year 2020 thus far, causing extraordinary consequences. Individuals, businesses, and establishments worldwide are facing financial, physical, mental and emotional distress, and it’s also no secret that COVID-19 has made a big impact on the world of dating, sex and relationships. Luckily, we have the advancement of technology on our side, which has proven to be an invaluable way to boost morale, decrease feelings of loneliness and … [read more]

Is Online Dating Your New Career?

In movie after movie we see characters who seem to make dating their career. Male or female - they never “find the one” (well, at least until they meet the other star of the movie!) and instead move from one conquest or short term relationship to another. Though you may have met people like that, this sort of character is not one most of us relate to. If you are trying to stop the endless cycle of online dating – then you likely identify with the character that feels they have been dating … [read more]

Critical Acclaim!

Betty helped me to regain my authenticity and confidence

I was down-right desperate to find love. I was looking in all the wrong places and found my emotions to be all over the place every time I went on a date. I felt disappointed and hopeless. Betty helped me to regain my authenticity and confidence. She didn’t just help me to find a partner, but … [Read More...]

I just wanted someone to come home to…

It’s hard to really remember just how lonely I was before I met my partner. I had a great way of hiding just how lonesome life was, even though I’ve always had an active social life. I just wanted someone to come home to. My partner and I have now been going strong for almost a year and are … [Read More...]

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Expert Dating & Relationship Advice

Setting Boundaries in Dating: How to Build Healthy Relationships and Keep Yourself Safe

Setting boundaries in dating is key to having healthy relationships and keeping yourself safe. It’s all about understanding and respecting the limits of the other person, and yourself. This blog article will explore what boundaries in dating are, why they’re important, and how to set them. We’ll look at the different types of boundaries, warning signs of a relationship without boundaries, and tips for setting boundaries in dating. We’ll also look at strategies for keeping yourself safe and … [read more]

Is It Over?

Do things feel “off” so that you are constantly giving yourself the pep talk, trying to convince yourself to stay? If so, maybe you shouldn’t. Stay, that is. Could be time to cut your losses. Tough as that sounds, it’s better to not turn a blind eye to it. Bottom line: trust your instincts. But there are some things to think about that might help you sort out, and give words to, those instincts. Consider the following: Your values don’t align. If you enjoy the same food and or music … [read more]

Are You Unhealthily Codependent?

Kimia had been in several relationships that started out well, but eventually did not fulfill her. She invariably ended up feeling taken advantage of, and that her boyfriends did not really care deeply for her. I asked her, “Do you think you made it clear to them that you won’t tolerate disrespectful behavior and that you deserve better than to be ignored?” “I didn’t want to seem too needy,” was her reply. Kimia just hoped that by treating her partners lovingly and with care and respect that … [read more]