Betty Answers Dating Questions

Question: Can you advise me how to proceed on a third date with a girl that makes me butterfly nervous?

Dear Betty,I am at the very beginning of a new relationship and need advice. Here are the details:I’m 48 and she is 47. We both have kids – I have a son in college and she has two teenage sons. We used to work together and have known each other for five years. We always flirted, but were in other relationships. We are no longer co-workers and fate has put us on the same path—both available. I called her up and we met for a drink, caught up, had a blast, laughing and chatting. We briefly touched … [Read More...] about Question: Can you advise me how to proceed on a third date with a girl that makes me butterfly nervous?

Question: Should I try to get my girlfriend back?

Dear Betty,  My girlfriend Nelly broke up with me last week. She said it was because she knew that our relationship had an expiration date—we are both going to be going off to grad school in the next 18 months and had already talked about how we probably wouldn’t do long distance. I was still stunned because we really love each other and had such a good time together. She suffers from anxiety and I think that may be related. Should I try to help her see that it would not be a bad thing to just … [Read More...] about Question: Should I try to get my girlfriend back?

Question: How can I end this streak of attracting narcissistic partners?

I'm very introverted by nature and not very good at reading people. In relationships I tend not to feel the need to lead hence I think I tend to attract narcissistic men. Needless to say my relationships all end very badly and dramatically because it takes time for me to figure the other person out. And as much as I don't feel the need to control, I don't want to be controlled either! My question is how can I end this streak of attracting narcissistic partners? Should I be more assertive? … [Read More...] about Question: How can I end this streak of attracting narcissistic partners?

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Online Dating Advice

The Sky is the Limit!

As you swipe right, are you open to love?

George Sand, the French novelist, once wrote: “There is only one happiness in life—to love and be loved.” For people, like Sand, who are open to love...there is nothing else like it! Deep down, does ANYONE not want love? Silly question, right? But there are those who claim to want love, but whose actions and non-verbal communication telegraph "no, not really;" resulting in a lifetime of feeling that something is missing... Opening to love is about what is inside us. Don't expect and seek … [read more]

Core Value Connection

Identify Your Core Values BEFORE You Start Dating Online

Core values can be discovered from life events! When do you feel disappointed, frustrated, uneasy, or upset with someone you are dating? This can be an indicator what your core values are. Consider Melanie, who realized that her desire for security and stability where most important to her. She connected with Laura who was all about pushing the envelope and taking risks. Laura was the kind of person who changed jobs every six months, took months off to travel, and lived financially close to … [read more]

Sharing Core Values

For a Successful Connection Make Sure You Share Core Values

Core values - what are they? They are not who you vote for, what car you drive, how much money you make, what restaurants you like, or what movies you prefer. Core values are not what you do, they are who you are. Core values are very deeply rooted and determine many of the choices you make in life. You have values for family, health, career, and relationships. When you live your life in line with your core values you live your truth. If you can live your truth in a relationship without guilt, … [read more]

Expert Dating & Relationship Advice

The Sky is the Limit!

As you swipe right, are you open to love?

George Sand, the French novelist, once wrote: “There is only one happiness in life—to love and be loved.” For people, like Sand, who are open to love...there is nothing else like it! Deep down, does ANYONE not want love? Silly question, right? But there are those who claim to want love, but whose actions and non-verbal communication telegraph "no, not really;" resulting in a lifetime of feeling that something is missing... Opening to love is about what is inside us. Don't expect and seek … [read more]

Ten Great Summer Dates

Summer is almost here! At a loss for what the heck to do this your big date? Summer is your chance to mix things up a little.  In the dreary winter months it is not so easy to find a cool new idea for a date, whether with your main squeeze or someone you are getting to know.  But the months of straw hats, tee shirts, sandals, and summer dresses come with a long list of fun options.  So as you listen to this (slightly tongue-in-cheek) song about summer love, check out the list below with ten … [read more]

Newly Single Part 3—Making the Introductions

Now your children are used to the fact that you go out on dates, and maybe they are aware that you have been seeing one particular person for awhile now. What about the next step in the parenting/dating interface? When—and how— do the kids meet this person? Here are some tips. Introduce them later rather than sooner. You’ve heard the saying, “Better late than never?” Well in this case, better late than early. This is one thing you do not want to jump the gun on. First of all, you will … [read more]