Betty Answers Dating Questions

Question: Can you advise me how to proceed on a third date with a girl that makes me butterfly nervous?

Dear Betty,I am at the very beginning of a new relationship and need advice. Here are the details:I’m 48 and she is 47. We both have kids – I have a son in college and she has two teenage sons. We used to work together and have known each other for five years. We always flirted, but were in other relationships. We are no longer co-workers and fate has put us on the same path—both available. I called her up and we met for a drink, caught up, had a blast, laughing and chatting. We briefly touched … [Read More...] about Question: Can you advise me how to proceed on a third date with a girl that makes me butterfly nervous?

Question: Should I try to get my girlfriend back?

Dear Betty,  My girlfriend Nelly broke up with me last week. She said it was because she knew that our relationship had an expiration date—we are both going to be going off to grad school in the next 18 months and had already talked about how we probably wouldn’t do long distance. I was still stunned because we really love each other and had such a good time together. She suffers from anxiety and I think that may be related. Should I try to help her see that it would not be a bad thing to just … [Read More...] about Question: Should I try to get my girlfriend back?

Question: How can I end this streak of attracting narcissistic partners?

I'm very introverted by nature and not very good at reading people. In relationships I tend not to feel the need to lead hence I think I tend to attract narcissistic men. Needless to say my relationships all end very badly and dramatically because it takes time for me to figure the other person out. And as much as I don't feel the need to control, I don't want to be controlled either! My question is how can I end this streak of attracting narcissistic partners? Should I be more assertive? … [Read More...] about Question: How can I end this streak of attracting narcissistic partners?

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Dating Apps—The Best of the Best (For YOU!)

You are single. You have approximately zero minutes a day to spend on dating sites. You do not want to break the bank. And you love your smart phone. Lucky for you there are some amazing dating apps that were probably created specifically for you! Or at least for people just like you who can’t wait to find love, companionship, sex—all that good stuff—but need to streamline the process. Also lucky for you, I offer professional profile support. I vet photos (and believe me, many people screw up … [ read more ]

Dating Advice for Women Over 40

If you’re a woman over 40 entering the dating world, you’re probably aware of the way Hollywood and popular culture love to depict you. In spite of the media stereotypes, you most likely are not a crazy woman in a shawl living with 40 cats, nor are you a “broad” in cheetah leggings, feathered mules, and makeup to hide the face it was meant to enhance. In most cases, women over 40 have wonderful life experiences to bring to a relationship–from raising children to running a household, from … [ read more ]

Mix ‘n’ Match – Unconventional Halloween Costumes for Couples

This week’s highly entertaining blog is from guest blogger, Vanessa Park, a brilliant writer and editor with her own business, VKP Editing. She has clients all over the country for whom she ghost writes, edits, and consults. Vanessa also writes her own person blog, Spiralwoman.com. Sit back and enjoy Vanessa’s witty suggestions for your Halloween festivities. It gets boring, doesn't it? What to be for Halloween? You both want to dress up but all the “couple ideas” are so predictable. … [ read more ]

How to Interpret a Profile #2—A Picture Really is Worth 1,000 Words

Last week we looked at how the “about me” section can actually work against someone, and how you can spot the red flags. Pictures, on the other hand, seem pretty straightforward, right? You like, you don’t… what’s complicated about that? Not so fast. There are plenty of shady tactics in this most popular section of the online profile. For example… No picture? Click “not interested.” That person is hiding something… or from someone. Old photos: red flag. Some people only post old photos, … [ read more ]

Lovers to Friends? Should You Stay Friends after a Break-up?

“Let’s just be friends.”  Four words dreaded by anyone who’s been in a fading or unequal relationship with what turns out to be a short shelf life. The comedic English singing duo, Rocky and Balls, sing about it quite hilariously in this video:   Though the whole topic is superb fodder for a strange variety of gallows humor or late night rants with any number of sympathetic listeners, it is actually possible for exes to become, or remain, friends.  I know of couples, long divorced, … [ read more ]

Online Dating Does Work

I’ve lost count of how many of the couples I know met originally online. Once people meet and get to know one another it does not matter how they met. Whether you are introduced to your grandfather’s neighbor at a family party, or sparks fly with someone you meet at your local bookstore, meeting is just the beginning of a process I’ve written about here before – a process that has a beginning, middle, and end.  My goal is to get you on that road.  Meeting is the very first step on that road.  … [ read more ]