Question: How can I stop falling in love so quickly? I feel that my thoughts and actions of “This is the one” makes me look overly needy and desperate and drives them away. It’s time to pump the brakes. If it is to resolve itself into the love of your life, it simply needs time. [read more]
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Question: What is the difference between physical intimacy and sex?
Question: What is the difference between physical intimacy and sex? Physical intimacy is much more than sex, though sex is one very important example of that form of closeness. When there is a physical connection between two people –we all know what that chemistry feels like, I hope – there is a whole range of [read more]
Question: What is a good face to face greeting with a girl that I’ve been talking to online?
Question: What is a good face to face greeting with a girl that I’ve been talking to online? A handshake, hug, kiss on the cheek? I really like her and don’t want to blow it. A greeting is in many ways the simplest thing in the world but can seem overwhelming under these circumstances. You [read more]
Question: I am devastated because I caught my girlfriend of two years cheating with my best friend
Question: I am devastated because I caught my girlfriend of two years cheating with my best friend. Why did she do it? Why did my best friend do it? Should I try to save the relationship? Of course, you are feeling devastated and have so many questions about the infidelity. It is painful and confusing. [read more]
Question: Can you please help me to be less fearful about dating?
Dear Betty, Can you please help me to be less fearful about dating? Of course. Fear can be a terrible enemy. Fear preys on your mind like a prayer in reverse – the more you dwell on it, the more you create a negative reality. Don’t get me wrong, fear has its place and it [read more]
Question: I feel so disconnected from my partner. Can you help me re-connect and feel good with her again?
Question: I feel so disconnected from my partner. Can you help me re-connect and feel good with her again? I understand your feelings of disconnect. It is completely normal in all relationships from time to time. You are wise to be aware of your feelings about you and the relationship and to take steps to [read more]
Question: How can I stop attracting the wrong people?
Question: How can I stop attracting the wrong people? Please help me. Let’s start with observing, non-judgmentally how you are showing up in your relationships. As you are noticing your thoughts, beliefs and actions say to yourself “Isn’t that interesting”. It will allow you to stay curious and in the present moment as you learn [read more]
Question: Can you help me change my experiences by reframing my beliefs and thoughts?
Question: Can you help me change my experiences by reframing my beliefs and thoughts? You can change your experiences by reframing your beliefs. Reframing is a way of changing how you look at something, which, in turn, changes your experience of it. Research shows that pessimists experience much higher stress levels and achieve less success [read more]