Dear Betty, I feel that the person I am dating is gaslighting me. How can I know? Dating can be a thrilling experience, full of joy, excitement and the possibility of finding someone special. It’s a chance to discover that person you can share a connection with and build a meaningful relationship with. However, it [read more]
Get your dating questions answered by expert dating coach Betty Russell, BCC.
Below are Betty's answers to questions asked by clients and site visitors. If you have a question of your own, send Betty a message!
Question: Can you help me understand why I have a hard time asking for what I need in a relationship?
Dear Betty, Can you help me understand why I have a hard time asking for what I need in a relationship? Yes, I can help you. This a very important question because all relationships end due to unmet needs or death. Whether the needs are known or unknown, spoken or unspoken they are critical to [read more]
Question: Can you help me to understand why I take breadcrumbs in my relationships?
Question: Dear Betty, Can you help me to understand why I take breadcrumbs in my relationships? Whether it’s love, dating, friendship, or career, it seems like I’m always settling for crumbs instead of the whole loaf. It’s a pattern I can’t seem to break. Yes, I can help you to understand some possible reasons why [read more]
Question: I’m new to Tennessee and want to date online and offline. Can you help me?
Question: I’m new to Tennessee and want to date online and offline. I’m feeling fearful and overwhelmed as to where to start. Can you help me? Yes, I can help you. Welcome to Tennessee, the volunteer state. We are so happy that you decided to join us. It is perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed and [read more]
Question: Is being Friendzone a lack of chemistry?
Question: Is being Friendzone a lack of chemistry? The friendzone is a term used to describe a situation in which two people have a platonic relationship, without any romantic or sexual attraction. It is often seen as a lack of chemistry between two people, leading to one person having feelings while the other does not. [read more]
Question: Can you help me to stop being a scorekeeper with my partner?
Question: Can you help me to stop being a scorekeeper with my partner? Answer: YES! First, let’s try to understand why you feel the need to keep score. Below are some possibilities: Scorekeepers may: ✓ feel unappreciated or taken for granted. This can happen in a relationship as time goes on. We get “used to” each other. [read more]
Question: How can I stop falling in love so quickly?
Question: How can I stop falling in love so quickly? I feel that my thoughts and actions of “This is the one” makes me look overly needy and desperate and drives them away. It’s time to pump the brakes. If it is to resolve itself into the love of your life, it simply needs time. [read more]
Question: What is the difference between physical intimacy and sex?
Question: What is the difference between physical intimacy and sex? Physical intimacy is much more than sex, though sex is one very important example of that form of closeness. When there is a physical connection between two people –we all know what that chemistry feels like, I hope – there is a whole range of [read more]