Dear Betty, Can you please help me to be less fearful about dating? Of course. Fear can be a terrible enemy. Fear preys on your mind like a prayer in reverse – the more you dwell on it, the more you create a negative reality. Don’t get me wrong, fear has its place and it [read more]
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Question: I feel so disconnected from my partner. Can you help me re-connect and feel good with her again? I understand your feelings of disconnect. It is completely normal in all relationships from time to time. You are wise to be aware of your feelings about you and the relationship and to take steps to [read more]
Question: How can I stop attracting the wrong people? Please help me. Let’s start with observing, non-judgmentally how you are showing up in your relationships. As you are noticing your thoughts, beliefs and actions say to yourself “Isn’t that interesting”. It will allow you to stay curious and in the present moment as you learn [read more]
Question: Can you help me change my experiences by reframing my beliefs and thoughts? You can change your experiences by reframing your beliefs. Reframing is a way of changing how you look at something, which, in turn, changes your experience of it. Research shows that pessimists experience much higher stress levels and achieve less success [read more]
Dear Betty, I met a new guy that seems perfect, too perfect and although I am mesmerized, I am afraid that he may be a narcissist. Can you help me identify red flags? The classic narcissist is fascinating, in that way that so many things are—like car accidents and other disasters—and we look at them [read more]
Dear Betty, Should I move in with my boyfriend? Knowing your relationship goals is key to determining if this is a good move for you or not. Do you want a long term committed relationship, marriage, or a casual relationship? Let’s look at the pros and cons – both practical and emotional. Cohabiting pros: Living [read more]
Dear Betty, How can I squeeze dating into my busy life? I feel like dating is a part time job. Dating and relationships are an investment of your time, energy, and emotions. The more you put in, the more you can get back. To have a meaningful relationship you must be ready for one [read more]
Dear Betty, Why is always so hard for me to say ‘no’ to people? Some people find it easy to say no. For so many, saying no is painful, challenging, HARD! Why you ask? There are numerous possible answers to that question. Does one of these fit your profile? Are you a people pleaser? Many people [read more]