A girl I’ve been dating for over a month went from chatting/texting with me a couple times a week to completely ghosting me. I thought things were going well, but she hasn’t called or texted me in about two weeks, then out of nowhere she asks if I want to meet up for a movie as if nothing happened. I get that we all have lives and things come up, but how do I know if I should let her back in or not?
Unfortunately, ghosting is a common occurrence in current dating times for many people. What this behavior exemplifies is a person’s lack of regard for how it affects the other person involved. Ghosting can trigger a multitude of feelings and questions, like empathy and wanting to give the other person the benefit of the doubt – e.g., a family emergency to feeling inadequate, like “Did I do something wrong? Am I not good enough?”
Consider the ghoster’s actions, or in this case non-action, as her giving insight into who she really is. Letting a ghoster, or anyone else who leaves you feeling mistreated, back into your life is teaching them how to treat you in the future. I suggest not taking the bait with a polite “Thanks, but no thanks!” attitude.
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Wishing you love,
Betty Russell, BCC
Board Certified Dating & Relationship Coach
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