Can you help me to understand why I take breadcrumbs in my relationships? Whether it’s love, dating, friendship, or career, it seems like I’m always settling for crumbs instead of the whole loaf. It’s a pattern I can’t seem to break.
First, I would like to say that it is wonderful that you have the awareness of this pattern and that it does not serve you. That is the first step to breaking it and will lead to creating new patterns that do work for you. Below are some questions to ask yourself to gain insights:
- Am I afraid of being alone, rejected or hurt?
- Am I ignoring my needs?
- Am I putting others needs before my own?
- Am I jumping into relationships too quickly without much thought?
- Am I idealizing people and overlooking signs that they are not in alignment with me?
- Am I taking whatever relationship that I’m offered?
- Am I afraid that I don’t deserve or expect better for myself?
Put your pen to paper, be completely honest with yourself and work through these questions.
Next, write what You Do Want and Need in All of your Relationships. While the relationships are different you are the common denominator and run the same patterns in all of your relationships.
To break this pattern and create a new pattern say Yes to what serves you and No to what doesn’t. To discover your yes or no, check in with your body and ask yourself how it feels for you. If it feels like shackles on it’s a no. If it feels like shackles off it’s a yes. Say Yes out loud and Act Upon It. Remember, this is about You, You, You having what you want and need in your life and relationships. You deserve the best and should expect to receive it! Go for it!
As always, I am here for you to discuss this further in a one time complimentary session. Call today as spots are limited.
Wishing you love, peace and joy,