Last week I told you I was going to give you a break-down of three main areas in a profile and how to glean the most information from it. Let’s start with the “about me” section. Every site, except some of the more minimalist phone apps, includes this. If someone has written nothing in the “about” field, I don’t have to tell you that’s a thumbs-down profile from the get-go. But assuming that section is complete—what can you trust? What’s real? Are there “tells” when someone is not what they seem? Yup.
How online seekers describe themselves can tell you a lot….
- The terms “separated” or “recent divorce or breakup” are likely to mean a classic rebound situation in the making. You want someone who is single, secure, and ready for a relationship for all the right
- When someone announces his or her high income, it may seem just plain honest, but often these people lack self-esteem and are simply trying to impress. Look for people who list no income information. Sure, they could be hiding the fact that they are on welfare and living with mom, but not likely. At least when you get to know them you will be doing so for compatibility, mutual interests, and other reasons for genuine attraction.
- Bragging vs. self-deprecation. Both can be red flags. No one likes a braggart, so they are easy to spot. Both braggadocio and self-deprecation are signs of insecurity. You want someone who has a healthy and secure sense of self with no need to show off or put him or herself down.
- Then there is the TMI profile. Way too much information for a public venue. For example, the sad story that plays upon your sympathy may be evidence that someone is a con-artist or emotionally unavailable.
There are countless giveaways, big and small, that reveal both the good and the not-so-good in a profile. I can help you write yours, and I can also help you separate the proverbial wheat from the chaff. Sign up here for your complimentary first session!
Can’t wait to help you find true love!
P.S. Next week: what a photograph can tell you (1,000 words-worth).
P.P.S. If you want a lot of great info at your fingertips, check out my 5 Secrets to Make Online Dating Work for You.