Last week we looked at how the “about me” section can actually work against someone, and how you can spot the red flags. Pictures, on the other hand, seem pretty straightforward, right? You like, you don’t… what’s complicated about that? Not so fast. There are plenty of shady tactics in this most popular section of the online profile. For example…
- No picture? Click “not interested.” That person is hiding something… or from someone.
- Old photos: red flag. Some people only post old photos, often from as many as ten or twenty years ago. This is a sign of insecurity.
- One-trick-ponies are the people who post many photos of essentially the same thing. Look for people whose photos convey an actual life (not all bathroom selfies from one five-minute selfie-sesh). Let your intuition guide you when you see the selection of pix before you.
- Photos with “toys” the only ones posted? Interesting… or shallow? It’s great if someone has a cool motorcycle, boat, nifty guitar collection, or a house full of antiques, but that can’t be all there is… can it?
- What to look for: Look for pictures of someone with a well-rounded life, involved in a range of activities. The best are unobstructed by other people, sunglasses, or costumes, and up-to-date head and body shots without “props” such as a fancy car or boat.
Yes. You want to find something appealing in the face, the posture, the smile, but there’s obviously more to it than that. Self-esteem, habits (social and otherwise), level of effort, and commitment to the process—all these and more are discernable from a few photos. Sign up for your complimentary session with me and we can talk about this and so much more!
Can’t wait to hear from you so we can get you on the path to love ASAP!
P.S. Next week: the hardest part of the profile to interpret bar none: what do you want from a relationship? Gulp. Don’t worry. I’ll help.