If the thought has crossed your mind that you may be emotionally unavailable, or that you seem to continuously attract people who are, let’s take a look at how you are showing up and at steps you can take to re-build your emotional availability…or your understanding of what that looks like in your partner. What [read more]
Being in the Flow Part I
In Siddhartha, his novel about the Buddha, Herman Hesse wrote, “The river is everywhere.” It makes sense that it was beside a river that the Buddha achieved enlightenment. If the river is the flow of life, all the things we clutter up the banks of the river with serve only to keep us from that [read more]
What You Saw is Not What I Did – How Perception Can Mess with a Relationship Part II
Last week we started to look at perception and what it means, the fact that it is not too reliable, and that emotions, memories, fears, and expectations are like filters that alter our perceptions. (What you saw is not what I did part I) What do these truths about perceptions mean to a relationship? Well, [read more]
What You Saw is Not What I Did – How Perception Can Mess with a Relationship, Part I
Susan had been married to Dave for 20 years. Early on, Susan struggled in the relationship because Dave was emotionally distant. Though he was a kind man, he had a hard time being there for Susan when things got rough. The emotional turbulence was way too much for him (for reasons we won’t go into [read more]