Betty Russell saw me through the end of a bad marriage and the beginning of a new and very promising relationship. When I was trying to salvage my marriage, Betty supported me and offered me countless practical ways to communicate and understand my own value and that of my husband. Then, when it was clear that the relationship had to end, Betty helped me through that time with dignity and self-esteem intact.
Since that time, I have met someone new. I find that some of the old habits are hard to break, and that innocent actions or comments on the part of my new partner act as triggers for me, making it very hard to process them without taking things personally or reacting out of fear. Betty’s wisdom, experience, and perspective have had a huge impact on my ability to readjust my perceptions of and reactions to this new relationship rather than allowing them to be based on habits and triggers from a previous and unhappy one.
I especially love that Betty gives me both the reason behind her suggestions and also incredibly practical advice about next steps. I appreciate having her explain the psychology/philosophy behind why things might be happening, and why certain new approaches, or steps to be taken, will work. Then I also get the actual steps to take—how do I adjust my thinking, what might I say to myself or my partner to get through a difficult moment or challenge, when is it a good idea to push for more clarity and when is it best to just go with the flow and/or take a time out?
As my association with Betty has spanned two relationships now (well, the end of one and now this brand new one), I can see her advice and wisdom affecting me in many ways. I feel more empowered and optimistic about my relationship future. I have someone to call upon who will guide me through mine fields that might threaten the relationship… but she and I won’t let them! I understand and am using the processes and mindsets that she has helped me develop so that my past does not sabotage my future.
I am grateful every day to Betty for her hard work and great insights. She is a worthy ally to have in my corner—no question about that! – Vanessa P.