Question: Dear Betty, I have a sinking feeling in my gut that my girlfriend of 2 years that I’ve been pouring my heart into just can’t give me what I need. What should I do? Seeing unresolvable unmet needs in your relationship is a tough place to be. I understand you’ve been there, giving it [read more]
Question: I feel so disconnected from my partner. Can you help me re-connect and feel good with her again?
Question: I feel so disconnected from my partner. Can you help me re-connect and feel good with her again? I understand your feelings of disconnect. It is completely normal in all relationships from time to time. You are wise to be aware of your feelings about you and the relationship and to take steps to [read more]
Being Vulnerable is Your Superpower!
Many believe that the word ‘vulnerable’ is synonymous with the word ‘weakness’. And today, we are going to shatter that belief into a million little pieces. You are going to learn that being vulnerable, in any capacity, is actually a superpower. It signifies being strong, brave, and courageous. And by embracing your vulnerability, you will [read more]
Part One of a Great Relationship – Emotional Intimacy
The key to any successful relationship is genuine attachment. Obviously you have a different relationship with a housemate or friend than you do with your lover. No matter how close a friend a housemate is, the attachment of a lover is bound to be deeper. It is based on full understanding which leads to a [read more]
Red Flags: When a First Date Is a Last Date
Yay! You’ve made a connection on Match, Our Time, Bumble, or eHarmony. You are ready to meet. So much of that first date is going to be about the “indefinable” – the stuff you can’t really put into words. But believe me, there are some very good words to describe a terrific first date, from [read more]
Self-Acceptance: Step One on the Path to Empowerment and Love
Marvin’s relationships never lasted. Even if they did, they were a series of unacceptable compromises and fraught with dissatisfaction. He could not, he said, find real love, the kind that transported a person and created a cocoon of unconditional acceptance. Upon further questioning, it became clear to me that Marvin was actually afraid of that [read more]
Focus on the Connection, not the Outcome
Today—this moment—is a given. You know it’s real because it is happening. You can understand what it means to you. You can see its value and cherish the feelings it evokes. What will happen tomorrow, or next week, or ten years from now is not so definite. If you don’t learn the lessons of today, [read more]