Rejection is a myth. No-one can make you feel rejected without your permission. Your disappointment stems from your own beliefs about why you were rejected. But there may be no why – and even if there is, the why is not about you but about the other person. What you offer simply does not fit [read more]
Taking a Dating Break: Why?
Is this you? You believe that you have a good sense of who you are, you know what you want and need in a relationship, you even have a dating strategy, but you are taking a break from dating, or considering it. Why? As with most life decisions, examining motives is always a good idea. [read more]
Are You a Career Dater?
How to Get Back on Track to Your Goal of True Love In the 1997 movie Picture Perfect, Kevin Bacon plays the role of the quintessential career dater. He never “finds the one” and instead moves from one conquest or short term relationship to another. In fact, he is only interested in unavailable women. Though [read more]
Dating a braggart?
Sometimes it takes a while to recognize the clues found in the actions and words of a braggart. Are you dating one? Or have you? You know…that interesting person you met and thought was going to be great? But despite having some qualities you look for in a partner, like independence, good looks, manners, humor… [read more]
Loss of Self: Love Doesn’t Mean You Have to Disappear
My client, Alexandrea, has a story that speaks to a not uncommon relationship problem. Read it, and see if it rings any bells for you. Alexandrea knows she has a lot of love to give. She longs for a relationship that fulfills her and to which she can give her all. In her pursuit of [read more]
Are you a Stage 5 Clinger? Check out these warning signs!
New love is exhilarating. Those early days and weeks are pure magic. You find you smile more, there’s more spring in your step, and the world is a happy place. You see everything around you through the fresh lens of new beginnings. It is completely normal for your new love to be on your mind [read more]
Live Your Truth—Don’t Settle for Less Than You Deserve
Desiring human connection and love is normal and healthy. Too often our longing for those things gets in the way of living an authentic life. If you think you are not living a life that aligns with your true value, read on. But first, try not to judge yourself, and do not despair. How you [read more]
Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence PART 2 – How to Improve Self-Confidence
Last week I talked to you about self-esteem, a fundamental internal navigational system that, when it is working well, allows you to love and accept yourself (Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence PART I – How to Improve Self-esteem). Healthy self-esteem is often present in self-confident people, but not always. You can be confident in certain arenas – [read more]