Question: Can you help me to stop being a scorekeeper with my partner? Answer: YES! First, let’s try to understand why you feel the need to keep score. Below are some possibilities: Scorekeepers may: ✓ feel unappreciated or taken for granted. This can happen in a relationship as time goes on. We get “used to” each other. [read more]
This Isn’t a Competition: How to Stop Keeping Score in Relationships
Mort was a scorekeeper. He kept track of the things, little and big, that he did for his wife, Andrea. He noticed if she did not notice when he did something wonderful, and he was painfully aware if she did or did not do something nice for him. He would adjust his actions towards her [read more]