If you know, or suspect, that emotional baggage is weighing you down and keeping you from living fully, but somehow that suitcase full of nasty stuff keeps surfacing in your life, today’s blog will give you some guidelines about how to release it. For a recap of what emotional baggage is and how it goes [read more]
How to Ditch Emotional Baggage Once and For All Part I
If there were a lot of ugly, heavy stuff in a giant suitcase and it was useless to you in every way, would you schlep that suitcase everywhere you went? In the shower, to bed, through the mall, on your after-dinner walk? The answer: no. Not only would doing so be counter to your best [read more]
Can You Fit Your Big Relationship into a Tiny House?
There’s a tiny house craze sweeping the nation. Well, maybe not a craze, but the number of people opting to live in tiny houses is growing every year. So what makes a house officially tiny? Tiny means… really little. Like less-than-400-square-feet-little. And those tiny houses come on wheels! If you are one of the many [read more]
Why Emotional Security is #1 in a Relationship
My client Virginia originally called me to help her navigate a difficult relationship. She loved Pat so much it was painful. The problem was, it actually was painful. She never knew when he was going to pull the rug out from under her. One day he was understanding and supportive, telling her how much he [read more]
Being in the Flow Part II — How it Creates Relationship Flow
Last week I wrote about being in the flow. Think about the Buddha’s river that I mentioned in that blog. If being in the flow is allowing the current of that river to take us, then imagine if our loved ones were with us in that peaceful river? You and I cannot push our partners [read more]
Being in the Flow Part I
In Siddhartha, his novel about the Buddha, Herman Hesse wrote, “The river is everywhere.” It makes sense that it was beside a river that the Buddha achieved enlightenment. If the river is the flow of life, all the things we clutter up the banks of the river with serve only to keep us from that [read more]
Romance—It’s Alive and Well and Ready for Action
What does romance mean? No matter how many dictionaries you consult, you’ll get a lot of different definitions. But essentially, romance relates to the feelings of pleasure and comfort, or even mystery and longing, that are associated with a person you love and are in a relationship with. Romance, for our purposes, relates to the [read more]
What You Saw is Not What I Did – How Perception Can Mess with a Relationship Part II
Last week we started to look at perception and what it means, the fact that it is not too reliable, and that emotions, memories, fears, and expectations are like filters that alter our perceptions. (What you saw is not what I did part I) What do these truths about perceptions mean to a relationship? Well, [read more]