Desiring human connection and love is normal and healthy. Too often our longing for those things gets in the way of living an authentic life.
If you think you are not living a life that aligns with your true value, read on. But first, try not to judge yourself, and do not despair.
How you behave today is based on how you think and feel. Those things are hugely influenced by past experience. But constantly circling around “knowing why” you “turned out this way” is not healthy, and it is not necessary. Accept that you may never really know the “why” and let that go. (This may take work—it’s not as easy as just “deciding”—but you can do it.)
Though many people constantly relive their past
instead of living their truth, you don’t have to.
Do you settle for relationships that feel wrong? Are you sensing a disconnect between your authentic self and the reality you are living? Try this:
Feel it. What is that feeling? Go quiet and listen with your body. Where do you feel it? Is it unease in your belly? A heaviness around your heart? Now that you have identified what the feeling is, I bet you want it to go away.
Name it. Putting a label on what is being triggered is a way to start distancing yourself from it. For example, “I don’t want to be alone,” or “I’m afraid of abandonment” or “No one will ever love me.” By naming it, you can notice the thoughts and beliefs tied to that feeling.
Re-frame it. Use language to bring change to your beliefs. Affirm something else, something empowering to you. “I will be okay alone.” “I am lovable.” “I deserve to be treated with respect.” By re-framing your truth, you release the old ways of being—the things you accepted without thought.
Let me help. That’s what I’m here for—to support you as you find your way to loving and accepting yourself, living your truth, and finding authentic love based on authentic self-awareness.
Don’t let the past hold you hostage. Live the joyous life you deserve.