I sat on a panel of dating experts recently, and someone in the audience asked: “Why should I hire a dating coach? I’ve got tons of friends that help me out.” I explained that your friends, although well intentioned, are attached to your outcome. They know you well. What they tell you is often either [read more]
Set Your Dating GPS
You have two weeks for the ultimate road trip. You know you want to end up in Santa Barbara, visiting your old college friend and soaking in the Southern California groove. You are starting from San Francisco, with a rental car, a cooler full of iced tea, Fig Newtons, and grapes, and a GPS. You’ve [read more]
Step By Step: Effective Online Communications in the Dating World
You’re making progress… Dating profile. Check. Unique user name. Check. “Had me at hello” headline. Check. Fabulous (and honest) photos. Check. Clear (and honest) “what you’re looking for in a partner.” Check. Well-written (and proofread) “about me.” Check. Okay, so all that hard work is done. Congrats! What’s next? Well, hopefully you – set your [read more]
5 Great Holiday Dates
The holidays are a great time to either reach out to someone you’ve been wanting to ask out, or to step things up with someone you really like. It’s true, people are busy at this time of year, and spending lots of time with family, but the jolly mood, the time off from work, the [read more]
What Are You Afraid Of?—Debunking the Top 5 Dating Myths
The stories people tell each other, and themselves, have always had great power. Throughout history, the myths and legends passed down through generations have guided the behaviors and thoughts of countless people. Our cultural myths are how we learn right from wrong. They teach us how to operate, what to think, hope for, imagine, and [read more]
How to Change Your Dating Experience for the Better
By the time Dave came to me for help, he was convinced that loneliness and disappointment were his destiny. He was deeply demoralized. So much so that he was determined to prove me wrong when I told him there was a way to turn things around and find dating success. I asked him, “Do you [read more]
Write What You Want — Online Dating Profiles and the Relationship Checklist
A colleague recently mentioned his experience with online dating checklists—you know, where you have to convey your dating requirements or “must haves.” We agreed that some of the lists people are making on dating sites are—pardon me—ridiculous. Mostly because they are naïve, careless, or shallow. We’ve seen it all, from blatant stereotypes—such as blanket claims [read more]
The Art of Re-framing Your Beliefs
On paper, Naomi had a lot going for her. Smart and well-educated, a college professor, Naomi has a quick wit. She made me laugh the first time we met. She is tall and athletic, attractive and, when she wants to be, quite stylish. Her best friend talked her into hiring me as a dating coach. [read more]