When my client Amy met Justin through an online dating site, it was a happy moment. He appeared to have everything Amy was looking for in a relationship, and prior to their first meeting, she was very optimistic and excited. After a few preliminary emails, they met face to face for coffee and a short [read more]
Part One of a Great Relationship – Emotional Intimacy
The key to any successful relationship is genuine attachment. Obviously you have a different relationship with a housemate or friend than you do with your lover. No matter how close a friend a housemate is, the attachment of a lover is bound to be deeper. It is based on full understanding which leads to a [read more]
Honestly? Telling Lies Hurts (Everybody)
People lie constantly. Especially if you include in your tally the most common lie of all: “I’m fine.” As much of a social lubricant as this lie is, it represents an essential fact. People don’t want to reveal… too much. We learn to lie in childhood. Saying “sorry” when we are not, saying what others [read more]
Dating and Deception Do NOT Go Together
You were 30 years old… not too long ago. Can you tell people you’re 30? You plan to start running any day soon. Can you put running as a hobby in your eHarmony profile? Your driver’s license says 190 lbs. So it’s kind of true, right? Even though that was fifteen pounds ago? These seem [read more]
Lovers to Friends? Should You Stay Friends after a Break-up?
“Let’s just be friends.” Four words dreaded by anyone who’s been in a fading or unequal relationship with what turns out to be a short shelf life. The comedic English singing duo, Rocky and Balls, sing about it quite hilariously in this video: Though the whole topic is superb fodder for a strange variety [read more]
The Dreaded “Friend Zone” – How to Get out and Stay Out
A woman sits at a restaurant with a group of friends, next to the man of her dreams, or at least she thinks so. The problem is, they are “just friends.” As she sits there, smiling, laughing at his jokes, she thinks, “He’s so great. Why can’t he see me as more than just a [read more]
Can long distance relationships last?
Long-distance relationships have been around for a long time. At one time in history separation by ten miles would constitute a long-distance relationship and contact would be done via handwritten letters. Much of the courtship between poets Elizabeth Barrett Browning and Robert Browning was conducted via love letters, which are wonderful to read! They fell [read more]
How do I know that I’m being lied to?
Lying is believing or knowing one thing while intending to communicate another. As painful as it is to be lied to, a certain amount of empathy is important when dealing with liars who typically are acting out of fear or low self-esteem. Often, fear and low self-image are also responsible for the very actions about [read more]