“O, beware, my lord, of jealousy; It is the green-ey’d monster, which doth mock The meat it feeds on.” – William Shakespeare, Othello Jacob travels a lot for work. Jacob can’t bear thinking about his wife, Darlene, sitting in a restaurant alone while he’s away, or even taking her car to their local garage. Why? [read more]
Dating a braggart?
Sometimes it takes a while to recognize the clues found in the actions and words of a braggart. Are you dating one? Or have you? You know…that interesting person you met and thought was going to be great? But despite having some qualities you look for in a partner, like independence, good looks, manners, humor… [read more]
Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence PART 2 – How to Improve Self-Confidence
Last week I talked to you about self-esteem, a fundamental internal navigational system that, when it is working well, allows you to love and accept yourself (Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence PART I – How to Improve Self-esteem). Healthy self-esteem is often present in self-confident people, but not always. You can be confident in certain arenas – [read more]
Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence PART I – How to Improve Self-Esteem
A dynamic, brilliant musician or actor exudes self-confidence on stage. A supremely gifted athlete seems innately imbued with confidence. And then we see one of these icons of self-assurance in the tabloids – in an abusive relationship or struggling with addiction. Does this seem paradoxical? Isn’t self-confidence the same thing as self-esteem… so how could [read more]
Relationship with a Narcissist? Shut it Down (Here’s Why)
My client Tom had a sad story to tell me when we first met. He had been in a relationship with—he was firm on this point—the love of his life, when suddenly he was tossed aside. His devastation was complete and the trauma tapped into his primal abandonment wound. As we talked, over the next [read more]
Step Out of Fear and Into Your Power
The eloquent wisdom of Franklin D. Roosevelt’s words, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself,” is so profound and far-reaching that they became watchwords for an entire nation, and have, in less than a century, become so familiar that some might mistake them for cliché. But in fact they are as true [read more]
Hostage or Free? Codependency Revisited
Codependency has gotten some press in recent years. Which is a very good thing because it drags into the light of day a dangerous and fairly common relationship pattern that can hold people hostage for years. If ignored, codependency can do grave damage. I worry that people sometimes hear “codependent” and brush it off— yeah, [read more]
So, Why Are You Still Single?
A loaded question with a number of equally loaded answers. First of all, are you single and loving it, or single and searching? To help navigate the endless nosy versions of the question, “So, why are you still single?” you need to decide into which camp you fall. But more about that later. Congratulations, first [read more]