You may be hearing the word “narcissist” more and more these days. When words seem to burst onto the scene you may be worried that it’s just “buzz”—the latest fad, catch-word or culturally “chic” concept. But in fact, there is some serious speculation that narcissism is, in fact, on the rise. While that might be [read more]
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5 Ways to Stop Attracting the Wrong Type of Person
Congratulations! You have jumped back into the dating pool. Doing so takes guts and vision and a joyful, optimistic heart. In fact, your optimistic confidence that you will find Mr. or Ms. Right is totally justified. But maybe you are losing that optimistic outlook because you notice a recurring theme—as you attempt to enter serious [read more]
Vulnerability and Authenticity—Partners in Your Inner Life
Max seemed so perfect. When he would first meet a woman, he gave the impression of a truly accomplished, confident man. He had a “perfect life” – great job, nice car and house. He played a perfect golf game and he was good looking and in excellent shape. Why couldn’t he hold onto a relationship [read more]
Dating over 50—How to Feel Dating Confidence
Confidence. We know what it looks like and feels like in ourselves and others. You may well be confident in your career, as a parent, pursuing your favorite hobbies, but confidence in one area does not guarantee confidence across the board. For many seeking a new relationship, it’s not easy to feel a whole lot [read more]
To Ex or not to Ex? Is it a Good Idea to Try Again?
Dave reconnected with his ex-wife a year after the divorce papers were finalized. They’d both been in therapy and seemed to have a lot more insight than ever before—into themselves and what went wrong between them. What they did not realize is that having insight into what the problems were does not mean those problems [read more]
Asking for What You Need – Why You Should and Why It’s Hard
We are born fully programmed to ask for, and receive, what we need. A baby just minutes old will turn its head expectantly, assuming its biological need for sustenance will be met promptly. If it isn’t, the baby cries, and mama puts the little wiggleworm to her breast. Feedback loop complete. Easy, right? Well, yes, [read more]
Finding Balance in an Introvert-Extrovert Relationship
Jerry—classic introvert. Very tuned in to the internal world of emotions and ideas. Refuels via alone time, whenever he’s exhausted or drained. Able to tune out the world when he’s focused. More at home in small, intimate groups than big blow-out parties. Life is going fine for Jerry, an orthopedic surgeon with a penchant for [read more]
Dating tips to Jumpstart the New Year
Hello all you singles out in cyberspace. Looking forward to the new year and all the fresh opportunities to meet new people? No? Why not? Oh, maybe you’re feeling a little worn out with the whole process. The past year is getting old, and so are some of the old photos on your dating profile, [read more]