My client Tom had a sad story to tell me when we first met. He had been in a relationship with—he was firm on this point—the love of his life, when suddenly he was tossed aside. His devastation was complete and the trauma tapped into his primal abandonment wound. As we talked, over the next [read more]
Expert Dating and Relationship Advice from Coach Betty Russell, BCC
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6 Great Reasons to Date an Introvert
Susan Cain’s 2012 book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking, has gained huge popular acclaim and received attention from everyone from business leaders and psychologists to teachers, university presidents, and political activists. American culture is dominated by the “extrovert ideal” and yet without introverts, where would we be? We [read more]
Dating Advice for Men: Debunking the Third Date Rule
Congratulations, she accepted your offer for a third date! This clearly shows she enjoys your company, is attracted to you and wants to explore where this relationship is heading. The first date nervousness is behind you. You won’t be as unsure about where to go, how to act or what to say, since you know [read more]
The Art of First Date Conversation
It’s time to meet. You met someone online, but now you want to take the next step. You have followed all the safety criteria: Agreed to meet in a neutral, public place that does not demand a lengthy time commitment (e.g. a coffee shop rather than a French restaurant) Told your family and friends where [read more]
How to Get That Second Date
Are you getting stuck on the first date? Do you feel like you are trapped in a loop and can never get past #1 to the increasingly anticipated date #2? If you feel like you may be becoming a serial first dater, read on. Maybe we can revamp your strategy and get you back into [read more]
Dating Tips For Women Over 50
So you are over 50, and ready to get back in the dating game, and unsure where to start. Well, it’s nice to meet you! That’s what I’m thinking, and now it’s time to get others to feel the same way. In today’s busy world, you can meet and date men online or through traditional direct contact. [read more]
Interdependence vs. Codependence—It’s Okay to Have Needs
Kimia had been in several relationships that started out well, but eventually did not fulfill her. She invariably ended up feeling taken advantage of, and that her boyfriends did not really care deeply for her. I asked her, “Do you think you made it clear to them that you won’t tolerate disrespectful behavior and that [read more]
Do You Speak Body Language?
Somewhere along the line, psychologists figured out that there was this thing they called “body language”—a non-verbal form of communication that your body knows all about, and that you probably don’t. You “speak” body language all the time without thinking about it, knowing it or having any idea of what the heck you are saying [read more]