“To graciously receive is an expression of the dignity of giving.” Deepak Chopra The spirit of Christmas—giving. Yet for us to give, someone must receive. The joy of giving depends on it. I was thinking about writing a blog this week for readers who find themselves not in a relationship right now. People who may [read more]
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New Relationship? New Holiday Traditions
The holiday season is one of sensory stimulation, excitement, stress, a range of emotions, traditions, and memories. Our memories can provide solace but also sadness, especially if they remind us of past relationships that did not work out. Rather than go all Grinchy Scrooge on the holidays, realize that there are always new traditions to [read more]
Too Many Yeses? It’s Time for No
Have you ever said yes but what you really wanted to say was no? How did that feel? Stuart’s ex called him weekly with one problem or another. The furnace was making a funny sound, the satellite TV stopped working, the window screens weren’t where they were supposed to be. He inevitably ended up back [read more]
Making Space in Your Life for the Right Person
Make room for love and it always comes. Make a nest for love and it always settles. Make a home for the beloved and he will find his way there. – Marianne Williamson When you think about finding love, do you ever think about what love will find when it gets to you? Will it [read more]
Should I Stay or Should I Go: What’s Your Tipping Point?
Relationships, even the best of them, require care and attention. If you are in a relationship and like most people, you have had to work on things. It’s like keeping your body healthy. You can’t ignore it and expect it to be in top form. But, if you’ve been in triage mode for a long [read more]
It’s Really Over: 7 Steps Towards Acceptance
We don’t have to accept everything that happens to us. Sometimes we need to resist, make change, or fight for what we believe. But when it comes to the end of a relationship—acceptance is really the only good option. Anything else is torture, and ultimately prevents life from moving on. I’ve seen clients struggle with [read more]
Avoid “Bad Date Syndrome:” Easy Steps for Turning Bad to Good
You’ve been chatting online for over a week with someone who seems pretty great so far. It’s time to meet face to face. You make a plan to meet for coffee at a trendy coffee spot, put on the sweater that perfectly complements your eyes, and head out full of hope and expectations. Maybe it’s [read more]
Passive-Aggression is a Game You Can’t Win
Imagine a ball game in which the primary strategy is to toss a ball to your opponent simply so you can avoid dealing with it. But once you toss it, you need to pretend you never did. “I never tossed that ball. Don’t know where that ball came from. I think it’s your ball.” Shoot [read more]