“O, beware, my lord, of jealousy; It is the green-ey’d monster, which doth mock The meat it feeds on.” – William Shakespeare, Othello Jacob travels a lot for work. Jacob can’t bear thinking about his wife, Darlene, sitting in a restaurant alone while he’s away, or even taking her car to their local garage. Why? [read more]
Part Two of a Great Relationship – Physical Intimacy
Intimacy is one of those concepts that has almost as many definitions as there are people to have opinions about it. Some people think “feelings” when they think about intimacy, and they find it easy to achieve emotional intimacy with others. They are not afraid of feeling vulnerable or else they enjoy the rewards of [read more]
Kicking the Faulty Expectation and Fear of Rejection to the Curb!
Rejection is a myth. No-one can make you feel rejected without your permission. Your disappointment stems from your own beliefs about why you were rejected. But there may be no why – and even if there is, the why is not about you but about the other person. What you offer simply does not fit [read more]
The Chemistry of Love – Love and the Brain
If I were to describe a situation in which someone experienced a flood of dopamine and ocytocin, a drop in serotonin, and spikes in adrenaline and norepinephrine, all those brain chemicals going crazy might make you assume this person was overdosing on some kind of highly addictive drug. You’d be right. The “drug” is called [read more]
Forgiveness—Divine Release
“To err is human; to forgive, divine.” A quotation probably more famous than the man who first said it, English poet Alexander Pope. You may well have not heard of him, but you have probably heard his words. Screwing up (to err, in other words) is human indeed. We are all flawed human beings. In [read more]
Dating Advice: How to Avoid the Trap of the Emotionally Unavailable
Have you ever been involved with someone who didn’t seem to be there? A client of mine became involved with a man she could not seem to pin down. He was like a mirage – she could see him, even hear him, but when she would reach out to touch him and grab hold of [read more]
The Texting Matrix: Dating in a Text Message Culture
Many of us remember a day when we had to be inside, standing in one place to use a telephone if we needed to make a call. Now we can get phone calls while standing in line at the pharmacy or driving down the interstate. Do you remember writing letters? Maybe you are too young [read more]
Loss of Self: Love Doesn’t Mean You Have to Disappear
My client, Alexandrea, has a story that speaks to a not uncommon relationship problem. Read it, and see if it rings any bells for you. Alexandrea knows she has a lot of love to give. She longs for a relationship that fulfills her and to which she can give her all. In her pursuit of [read more]