People lie constantly. Especially if you include in your tally the most common lie of all: “I’m fine.” As much of a social lubricant as this lie is, it represents an essential fact. People don’t want to reveal… too much. We learn to lie in childhood. Saying “sorry” when we are not, saying what others [read more]
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5 Signs You are Dating a Rebounder
My client Jade met someone perfect online. She could not believe her luck. Keith seemed custom designed to fit her dating needs and wants. They exchanged a few emails, chatted on the phone, and since things continued to look oh-so-hopeful, they met face to face for a coffee date. Bingo! Chemistry? Check. Comfort and mutual [read more]
Are You Dating a Selfish Person?
Feeling a little invisible in your relationship? Wondering why your date’s version of give and take has a lot more take than give (which leaves you making up the difference)? Maybe you need to assess how you show up in your relationship, and whether you are looking out for yourself enough. On the other hand, [read more]
What a Coffee Order Reveals – Only Your Barista Knows for Sure
I always wonder about those people at Starbucks who stand at the counter and hold forth for two or three minutes about their special order. “I want a venti iced decaf latte, half skim and half soy, filled 62% of the way, with no more than one inch of whipped cream. Oh, and make that [read more]
Life Beyond the Borders: Date Outside Your Comfort Zone
Are you in a dating rut? That could mean you are attracting the same ol’ boring type or you have given up and are not meeting anyone at all. If you are getting the same story on a different face, over and over again, it’s time to get out of your comfort zone and try [read more]
Seven Days in a Week and No Time to Date?
Remember that Beatles song, “8 Days a Week?” It’s a love song, if you recall, about someone loving someone so much that his feelings leak out beyond the confines of time itself. Check it out: What a nice idea! If you were faced with the actual option of an 8th day every week, would you [read more]
New Year’s Intentions
Have you ever thought about the difference between goals and intentions? Goals are about the future, and what we plan to do about getting there, specifically to the future we desire to manifest. I have written before about the importance of having clear relationship goals in order to end up in a partnership that is [read more]
The Texting Matrix: Dating in a Text Message Culture
Many of us remember a day when we had to be inside, standing in one place to use a telephone if we needed to make a call. Now we can get phone calls while standing in line at the pharmacy or driving down the interstate. Do you remember writing letters? Maybe you are too young [read more]