I’m very introverted by nature and not very good at reading people. In relationships I tend not to feel the need to lead hence I think I tend to attract narcissistic men. Needless to say my relationships all end very badly and dramatically because it takes time for me to figure the other person out. [read more]
Relationship Lessons from the Not-So-Crazy Cat Lady
Animal lovers usually enjoy projecting human motives and traits onto their pets. We pretend we know what they’re thinking—in human terms. Although our cats, dogs, parrots, horses, and guinea pigs are probably chuckling quietly whenever we do that, there is still much to learn—as humans—from the animal world. Animals don’t second guess themselves. They live [read more]
Set Your Dating GPS
You have two weeks for the ultimate road trip. You know you want to end up in Santa Barbara, visiting your old college friend and soaking in the Southern California groove. You are starting from San Francisco, with a rental car, a cooler full of iced tea, Fig Newtons, and grapes, and a GPS. You’ve [read more]
To Ex or not to Ex? Is it a Good Idea to Try Again?
♥ Veronica had recently split from her husband when a blast from the past knocked her for a loop. A guy she’d once been head over heels in love with reappeared in her life via Facebook…and he wanted to connect. Friendly-like. Last time, Vincent had left her rather suddenly and unkindly, despite what Veronica thought [read more]
Question: I am in a very brand new relationship with someone whose politics are very different from mine. Is this a stumbling block?
Betty, I am in a very brand new relationship with someone whose politics are very different from mine. Almost all my friends and close family align with my political principles and the fact that Sam and I do not line up is hard for me. He is wonderful in all other ways. Thoughtful and kind, [read more]
Stack the Love Deck in Your Favor by Sharing Core Values
A little over a year ago my client, Jen, fell in love—hard—with Paul. Paul was exciting, smart, handsome, confident, and he adored her. Paul’s work was demanding, and on weekends he loved to be outside, taking adventures with Jen. They would fly out to Wyoming to ski, they’d hike through the Great Smokies for a [read more]
Flirting: 9 Basic Guidelines for the Mature Single
As she walked out of her neighborhood coffee place, Melissa was surprised when she suddenly realized she’d been flirting! There was a nice man in line ahead of her and it just…happened. Later she told me about it, “It just happened!” She went on to confide, “The biggest shock was realizing how attractive he found [read more]
Question: I am in love with someone who considers me only a friend. What should I do?
I am in love with someone who considers me only a friend. In fact, Deirdre and I are very close as friends, and she knows how I feel. She has romantic relationships with men but I can’t seem to feel anything for another woman because of how I feel for her. What should I do? [read more]